NEED EVERYoNE'S ADvICE NOW!!!11 HELP!

[Highlander]

I just got back from the doctors and IM FREAKING TEH **** OUT!!1 All I wanted in life was to be aesthetic, but everything I do JUST END SUP DOING NOTHING AND COSTING ME MONEY OR HAVING SIDE EFFFECETS!!! **** EVERYTHIGN!!!

All my attempts to get perfect skin have B]FAILED[/B]. Now I am left with the one thing that brought me here in the first place. THE ONE THING THAT DESTROYED MY NW1 AND YOUTH BEFORE I HAD A CHANGE TO SAY NO. Accutane.

Life sucks. Badly.

Do I go on Accutane again? Do I risk taking it and losing more hair!? Will the Finasteride stop futher hair loss!??!?

What is more important, perfect skin or good hair? WHY DO I EVEN NEED TO MAKE THIS CHOICE!?? LIFE IS SO UNFAIR!

DEAR GOD, IF YOU'RE LISTENING, PLEASE MAKE IT END!!

I'm so afraid of taking Accutane again and going NW3 or having diffuse thinning. Will tapering on work? I'll only be taking 20-30mg a day.

I feel so depressed now. I'm going to keep fighting this for a few more years, but if it all fails then there's no point in going. Right now I feel defeated.

All of this has confirmed one thing: My genes are defective. I have moderately bad skin that is resistent to topical treatments. I will never have children. I refuse to pass on these genes. The world will keep on turning without me.

[JudeL]

Hi. First and foremost, I do not know your age, but I am assuming you are a late teenager to mid 20s? Anyways, we are not far off in age disparity, and further we seem to be struggling with the same conditions (wanting to achieve a high level of aesthetics, while dealing with troubled skin and hair loss).

If I could I would love to extend some advice to you regarding everything. First and foremost, I'm not going to say otherwise, acne and hair loss both suck 10000000000 times on their own, in combination it's just on the brink of being unbearable. BUT, and while I know you may hate this, (I do too to an extent) LIFE IS NOT only about looks. YES looks play a major role BUT YOU SHOULD DEFINE THE PERSON YOU WANT TO BE. Don't let factors you can't control define you, define how you feel or how you view yourself.

**** that man. I spent a lot of my early-mid teens being so shy, reserved and self-conscious. I cared about every single pimple and every single defect I could find. I became obsessed. I would stay home if I had a pimple. If my hair didn't look right, I would not go out with friends. It came to the point where I went from being a very outgoing funny guy to a weirdo. It all changed though through a change in perspective and really through observing those around me. I have other friends whose acne was so severe I couldn't believe it, but they would be out, socializing, trying to talk to girls...the opposite of what I thought a person with acne should be doing. One of my good friends in highschool had very bad skin, and while he was def sensitive about it, he didnt let it hold him back. He actually had some of the prettier girlfriends. So at that point, I was just like **** this, I'm tired of being self-conscious, I'm tired of hiding. I dont want to look back on this time and say wow, I regret acting that way. My life became so much better, I went out a lot more, experienced so many things I never thought I would. I hooked up with so many girls and ultimately found a very gorgeous girl who I ended up going out with. And you know what, as I became more social and stopped worrying as much, a lot of people would tell me how the girls thought I was so cute and one of the more handsome guys in school... meanwhile I thought of myself to be this hideous creature. So please man, while it does suck so bad, don't let it affect you more than it should.

[JudeL]

Also, I know you may feel like you have tried everything for your skin but hear me out on this. I know some say diet has no effect on your acne/skin, that some people just have bad genetics and all, but I truly believe that's wrong.

I had bad acne and was on every type of prescription, soap, etc. I did blue-light treatmens, had shots into my face, everything. I hated my life.

One thing you most note, for some of us acne stays with us longer. It did with me. BUT it did get better and better noticeably quicker when I started eating right, exercising, taking biotin and fish oil and started making fresh juices on my own every day at least twice a day. I would make fresh juices out of kale, spinach, cucumbers, lemons, apples, carrots, ginger and so many more fruits and vegetables. Also, I started using hyaluronic acid (on my face and in pill form). My skin felt so good and must have looked even better because for the first time in my life... I received compliments of how nice my skin looked.

So if I were you I would really look into acne diets and JUICING. Seriously man juicing every day and eating right can change your life. You can buy juicers off amazon, also check out the reddit site and go to the subreddit juicing (http://www.reddit.com/r/juicing) there's a lot of info there.

Please don't get down, there are definitely things you have not tried that can help you like juicing fresh vegetables/fruits.

Also, try switching to more natural treatments for your face... At first I thought it was so stupid, but it worked for me. I would use lemon juice on my face and cucumber slices for inflammation on new pimples.. This too really helped.

I don't know what else I can say but if I think of it I`ll post here lol. Feel free to message me whenever you'd like. I have gone and still am going through the same things as you my friend, so please understand you are not alone.

[dex89]

Have you try retain-A topical? I heard it has the same effects has accutane and no hair loss.

[Highlander]

Originally Posted by dex89

Have you try retain-A topical? I heard it has the same effects has accutane and no hair loss.

I'm trying it now for a month, and we'll see what happens. If it fails then I'll need to go on Accutane.

[Highlander]

Originally Posted by JudeL

Also, I know you may feel like you have tried everything for your skin but hear me out on this. I know some say diet has no effect on your acne/skin, that some people just have bad genetics and all, but I truly believe that's wrong.

I had bad acne and was on every type of prescription, soap, etc. I did blue-light treatmens, had shots into my face, everything. I hated my life.

One thing you most note, for some of us acne stays with us longer. It did with me. BUT it did get better and better noticeably quicker when I started eating right, exercising, taking biotin and fish oil and started making fresh juices on my own every day at least twice a day. I would make fresh juices out of kale, spinach, cucumbers, lemons, apples, carrots, ginger and so many more fruits and vegetables. Also, I started using hyaluronic acid (on my face and in pill form). My skin felt so good and must have looked even better because for the first time in my life... I received compliments of how nice my skin looked.

So if I were you I would really look into acne diets and JUICING. Seriously man juicing every day and eating right can change your life. You can buy juicers off amazon, also check out the reddit site and go to the subreddit juicing (http://www.reddit.com/r/juicing) there's a lot of info there.

Please don't get down, there are definitely things you have not tried that can help you like juicing fresh vegetables/fruits.

Also, try switching to more natural treatments for your face... At first I thought it was so stupid, but it worked for me. I would use lemon juice on my face and cucumber slices for inflammation on new pimples.. This too really helped.

I don't know what else I can say but if I think of it I`ll post here lol. Feel free to message me whenever you'd like. I have gone and still am going through the same things as you my friend, so please understand you are not alone.

My acne is more complicated. I've got red spots rather than pimples. Also my skin is sensitive from my first round of Accutane, and therefore I can't use some of the harsher topical treatments.

I do like the idea of juicing, and I might consider buying a juicer sometime soon.

For the record, I exercise a lot, eat well, drink plenty of water, etc etc.

[Delphi]

Originally Posted by JudeL

Hi. First and foremost, I do not know your age, but I am assuming you are a late teenager to mid 20s? Anyways, we are not far off in age disparity, and further we seem to be struggling with the same conditions (wanting to achieve a high level of aesthetics, while dealing with troubled skin and hair loss).

If I could I would love to extend some advice to you regarding everything. First and foremost, I'm not going to say otherwise, acne and hair loss both suck 10000000000 times on their own, in combination it's just on the brink of being unbearable. BUT, and while I know you may hate this, (I do too to an extent) LIFE IS NOT only about looks. YES looks play a major role BUT YOU SHOULD DEFINE THE PERSON YOU WANT TO BE. Don't let factors you can't control define you, define how you feel or how you view yourself.

**** that man. I spent a lot of my early-mid teens being so shy, reserved and self-conscious. I cared about every single pimple and every single defect I could find. I became obsessed. I would stay home if I had a pimple. If my hair didn't look right, I would not go out with friends. It came to the point where I went from being a very outgoing funny guy to a weirdo. It all changed though through a change in perspective and really through observing those around me. I have other friends whose acne was so severe I couldn't believe it, but they would be out, socializing, trying to talk to girls...the opposite of what I thought a person with acne should be doing. One of my good friends in highschool had very bad skin, and while he was def sensitive about it, he didnt let it hold him back. He actually had some of the prettier girlfriends. So at that point, I was just like **** this, I'm tired of being self-conscious, I'm tired of hiding. I dont want to look back on this time and say wow, I regret acting that way. My life became so much better, I went out a lot more, experienced so many things I never thought I would. I hooked up with so many girls and ultimately found a very gorgeous girl who I ended up going out with. And you know what, as I became more social and stopped worrying as much, a lot of people would tell me how the girls thought I was so cute and one of the more handsome guys in school... meanwhile I thought of myself to be this hideous creature. So please man, while it does suck so bad, don't let it affect you more than it should.

That's excellent advice JudeL! Unfortunately Highlander has a very unusual and extremely unhealthy and unrealistic perspective on life. I only hope he can learn to cope in a healthy way the way that you have.

[JudeL]

Originally Posted by Highlander

My acne is more complicated. I've got red spots rather than pimples. Also my skin is sensitive from my first round of Accutane, and therefore I can't use some of the harsher topical treatments.

I do like the idea of juicing, and I might consider buying a juicer sometime soon.

For the record, I exercise a lot, eat well, drink plenty of water, etc etc.

Yea, if you are exercising a lot, eating well, staying hydrated you may benefit greatly from the vast amount of nutrients juicing will provide you. Everything takes time. Stay on a very organic, natural diet for 3-4 months. Try researching the use of lemon on red spots and cucumber peels/slices. Try to relax more and be more anxiety and stress free. The more in control you are of your feelings and person, the better results you`ll see internally and externally. I never went on accutane so I can't speak to its role in adversely effecting you. I never took acutane because I knew it had severe side effects so I always pushed it away. But, if you say you can't use harsher tropical treatments you will definetly benefit from researching and looking up natural cleansers, masks and exfoliators.

Just as you theorize that a lot of the hair transplant doctors do the strip because they get a lot more money from it, dermatologist make their money by writing you countless prescriptions. I remember when i was dealing with my acne and would see a dermatologist monthly I would have to get a new medication or topical cream every time... THey would tell me this will help me, that I`ll see an improvement on this new one in 2-4 weeks... etc etc etc.. Then I just got fed up with it. I felt weird putting all these chemicals on my face and in my body, I just stopped. I cancelled my next appointment and didnt go to the dermatologist for 3 months, and I stayed off all prescriptions, ate right, stayed focus on school, and only used a very gentle/mild cleanser. When I went back to the doctor I didn't tell him I was off anything, I just sat there as he examined me and had no pimples to break or inject, he noticed that my skin cleared up. Then, I mentioned to him that I haven't even been taking anything in the interim. He immediately said why is that, that's no good, you are going to break out and he asked me if I needed a refill on a prescription or was willing to try a new product. I said no I'm going to stay off them and since then never took anything more.

[JudeL]

Originally Posted by Delphi

That's excellent advice JudeL! Unfortunately Highlander has a very unusual and extremely unhealthy and unrealistic perspective on life. I only hope he can learn to cope in a healthy way the way that you have.

I've come to learn that perspective means everything in life. If you see something one way it can depress you. If you change your outlook, have a bit more positivity, that same thing that depressed you all of a sudden becomes the highlight of your day. It's just about finding the right way to think of things and look at a situation.

I know some of us have been warped into thinking certain ways that can be very detrimental but there's ways past it. Life is short, it shouldn't be filled with anxiety and pain. So while Highlander may display some attitude or behavior within the forums that may perturb some, I know what he's going through and it's very hard to deal with.

So Highlander, just work on focusing on other things that you can control. Just keep doing what your doing in terms of exercise and diet and try to relax. Life exists after your teens and 20s, and while you may think this is the time you should be having fun, I know of a lot of people in their 30s and 40s who are the happiest they've been their entire life. So always be looking forward. In the end, the possibility of plastic surgery and hair procedures exist to fix those aesthetic issues. BUT the person that you are, your character and demeanor can't be as easily fixed. People don't wake up changed. It takes hard work and a lot of time, you just have to get the ball rolling from now. Work on things internally and dont worry so much about the external is what I'm trying to say. The most powerful thing in this world is confidence and knowing yourself and your capabilities in life. Know your role and be confident in your person because that's what your left with at the end of the day.

[Dan26]

Bro, I am in the same boat as you. I hit 18, and my skin problems + hair loss ramped up. It is tough to deal with sometimes, all you can really do is stay calm, devise a game plan on how to fight it, and just live your life as if you didn't have those problems. Me personally, I care more about my skin (got eczema btw), because it doesn't just effect aesthetics it effects my health/comfort as well as sleeping ect., so I would try and resolve that over anything. Honestly I know everyone is on here for hairloss, and wants to fight/prevent it, but there is no point in obsessing over it. Especially at a time where within the decade it is fair to assume that if you want a full head of hair and you can afford it, you will be able to get it.