I'm so devastated for my son
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I cannot forget the poster that I saw many years ago in the consultation room of a cardiologist: it was about risk factors for heart disease and, among other things, it had the image of a miserable BALD (NW6+) middle aged man looking like 60+, tired and sad. I was in shock. The message of the poster was that if you go bald at younger age, you better start monitoring earlier the health of your heart.Comment
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You must already know that there is presently no cure, except the well-known bandage-like solutions discussed earlier. They may help; but then, they may not.
However, talking about his psychological well-being, the best you can do is to encourage him to invest in a stable and long term relationship with a girl. The best time to do it is just around the end of his university studies. If he is involved in such a deeply gratifying relationship with the perspective of creating a family, he (and consequently you) will quickly forget anything about hair loss.Comment
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The reality is that there is very little that can be done for hair loss in this day and age. Your son can try finasteride and minoxidil, but they are stop loss measures at best. They lose effectiveness over time, they don't work for everyone, and for some people, they can have terrible side effects.
If your son is destined to go bald, I think one of the key things you can do for him is to examine your own reactions to baldness. You want to build his confidence not destroy his self esteem. Do you ridicule men with hair loss? If so, stop. If you discuss hair loss at all, be careful not to make it sound like it is a terrible thing. Talk about it like it's no big deal and just something that happens to most men as they get older. If there are bald celebrities you find attractive, such as Patrick Stewart or Jason Statham, figure out ways to casually mention this in conversations in front of your son. Better yet, do this with any bald men you know personally that you find attractive. I think it will do your son a lot of good if the women in his life reinforce the message that "bald is beautiful," and not something to be ashamed of or something that will render him "damaged goods" in the eyes of women. If he needs to lose weight or dress better, don't tell him this directly, but praise him when he does go to the gym or dresses well or does other things to improve his appearance. For bald men, I think confidence is key. You want to do whatever you can to build it up.Comment
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Although your point about society's perception is right, it is old news that MPB is associated with increased risk for heart disease and prostate cancer. Whatever the link is between the two, MBP and heart/prostate disease, eliminating this plague at the genetic level (and not just restoring hair) should be set as one of the next goals in medicine.
I cannot forget the poster that I saw many years ago in the consultation room of a cardiologist: it was about risk factors for heart disease and, among other things, it had the image of a miserable BALD (NW6+) middle aged man looking like 60+, tired and sad. I was in shock. The message of the poster was that if you go bald at younger age, you better start monitoring earlier the health of your heart.Comment
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I feel like men with MPB in general, have higher androgen levels like more body hair. The higher androgens are bad for you long term part of why women live longer then men. Partly personal opinion but I dont think high androgens are a good thing even if they help your sex drive or make muscle easier to get.
The androgen link is huge though you can see everyday evidence of it. Most young bald men I know are abnormally hairy. I just dont think its all coincidence. If you value hair you want to lower all androgens as much as possible safelyComment
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I feel like men with MPB in general, have higher androgen levels like more body hair. The higher androgens are bad for you long term part of why women live longer then men. Partly personal opinion but I dont think high androgens are a good thing even if they help your sex drive or make muscle easier to get.
The androgen link is huge though you can see everyday evidence of it. Most young bald men I know are abnormally hairy. I just dont think its all coincidence. If you value hair you want to lower all androgens as much as possible safelyComment
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I actually commend this mother for doing what she is doing. Although some people can live their lives accepting their baldness, it is absolutely devastating for others (myself included). She is not looking down upon people with hair loss. She knows that hair loss can be devastating for many men and she loves her son so much that she does not want to see him experience this devastation, particularly at such a young age. She is trying to be proactive with her son, something that I wish that I would have done as soon as hair loss manifested itself in me. Hell, there were years where I didn't notice hair loss on myself yet I'm sure other people did. And I wish that they would have so I could've started treating it as soon as possible.
Baldozer, I respect your opinions though because you practice what you preach. You're not one of these people with such minimal hair loss that preaches for people with extensive hair loss to get on with their lives. That's almost like some one who does not suffer from hair loss telling an extensive hair loss sufferer how to live their lives. They cannot fathom what it is like to be in their shoes since they have never experienced it for themselves.Comment
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Yet I know many young bald men who can hardly grow a proper beard. So, what you are saying is not totally true. I myself have normal body hair. We make too many generalizations when talking about bald men, like for example, all of them are equivalent of females with PCOS, they are low in energy etc. while there have been top athletes like Michael Jordan and Andre Agassi who went prematurely bald.
If a guy can barely grow a beard and has little/no chest hair or body hair I would argue they are balding very slowly unless they say took steroids or made a major change to androgen levels.Comment
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Yeah I am over generalizing for sure, but most of the cases seems to be true. Its always been a sensitivity issue so someone with low androgen levels can still go bald but you also have to consider the speed. Higher androgens I would guess means faster rate of balding most of the time. I am just saying in most cases I see its true they are much hairier then most men their age. That is just what I see and you can always point out people that are not but they could be the minority. There are always exceptions to poorly understood things like this
If a guy can barely grow a beard and has little/no chest hair or body hair I would argue they are balding very slowly unless they say took steroids or made a major change to androgen levels.Comment
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She is trying to be proactive with her son, something that I wish that I would have done as soon as hair loss manifested itself in me. Hell, there were years where I didn't notice hair loss on myself yet I'm sure other people did. And I wish that they would have so I could've started treating it as soon as possible.
I have a younger brother and if he starts to lose his hair, I will let him know what his options are.Comment
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This 100%. I wish someone would have been proactive with me. My mom, uncle, anybody who could have helped would have saved me much grief. If you have seen my before pics, you would probably ask: "how the hell did you not notice your hair was that bad!", but I didn't. If somebody would have just pulled me aside years ago and said: "This might offend you but you are losing a bunch of hair", it could have made a huge difference in my appearance. I might have been embarrased, but I would have been grateful, they were trying to look out for me.
I have a younger brother and if he starts to lose his hair, I will let him know what his options are.Comment
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Hi Much Too Young, I have no idea if ull see this or not but thought I’d try. I see ur post is 6 years old. I am a mom of a 19 year old young man losing his hair and I am devistated for him. Was wondering if we might be able to text/talk ? Please lmk if that might be possible thank you so much!Comment
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my son is 2 years old, he began to grow bald in a lobby is frequent the heads. It is strong! What to do? To what doctor to show? Help please council
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