Originally Posted by jman91
. However after listening to him week after week on the show I started to really feel for the guy and realise that this shit can really **** people up.
You know, like I always say, the problem with people, almost all people, is that they expect every one else to react to a certain problem the same way they (the people) react to it. Meaning, if someone doesn't care about his hair loss and is not affected (mentally or otherwise) by it, he thinks and EXPECTS every one else to be the same way, WHICH IS IMPOSSIBLE as we all are different and we react differently to the same exact situation. This is a simple FACT of life but people because of their narrow-mindedness they just refuse to see it.
I have been suffering SILENTLY -because I know people won't understand it if I told them- for most of my life and have seen my life slip away because of hair loss and BDD. I'm literally living in a prison without walls. I have never been able to live a normal life even for a day. I mostly live like a hermit. I can't even begin to describe the impact of this curse (hair loss) on my whole life. Every second is nothing but suffering and depression. To someone reading this I might sound like I'm crazy, but again, that would be because of their narrow-mindedness. The simple fact is that I -or Joe or whoever- DON'T choose to be like this. Just like someone doesn't give a fcuk about their hair loss, someone else can be suicidal about it. We don't know why people react differently to the same situation but we do know they just DO.
It's just like people who have phobia problems. We know -and they probably know- their fear is irrational but they CAN'T do anything about it. To us, we think they're crazy because we happen to not fear spiders or snakes for example but to them they'd be paralyzed with fear. Again, same situation yet two totally different reactions. We can't understand why they react that way and they can't understand why we don't react the same way.
So yeah, I totally understand Joe and in fact when I'm listening to him sometimes it feels like I'm the one talking. I totally understand how he cannot get past the hair loss thing. He sees his hair loss as an obstacle that stands between him and every thing else that life has to offer. THIS IS EXACTLY HOW I SEE IT TOO. It's hard to understand but hair loss can overshadow everything else in someone's life, and I and Joe and many others happen to be among those unlucky ones.