The girl I was after....

[Davey Jones]

Yepp.

I am also doing an experiment at the moment, I have joined a dating site, but not officially a member on it so not paying anything but you get updates everyday of who has favorited you and I had a bald pic of me up for a month and I got a whole massive 1 favourite. I have no put a pic up of me with a hat on and I have already got a favourite after just a few days.......

OkCupid is free. And actually fairly fun to use. I had a little luck with that back in the day, balding and all. Give it a shot. Heck, even if it doesn't work out (which it might not if you're not in a big enough area), at least you didn't pay a dime.

[ovoxo]

girls

not getting girls is also my biggest fear, until now girls even came up to me

[clandestine]

Of course it was fail. If you don't ask right away, you will fail for sure.


>asking girl out on Facebook - beta as fukk

That's what you get for being a beta male.


No, if you were attractive she would respond positively to your Facebook message. Stop making a fool out of yourself.


Yes, I know that feel. The best way to counter this is by deleting yourself from Facebook.

Remember, social sites are only worth if you are good looking. You need to grow some hair, improve your looks and then come back as a phoenix from ashes.


She will not tell the truth. Women are liars like that. She will tell that she isn't looking for another person right now, while if you contact her from a male model pic, she will be ready to jump on his **** in a heartbeat (don't believe me, try it). It's all because of your looks bro, something you can't control. Just embrace life of involuntary celibacy.

You're like the baldtruth prophet, or something.

[sausage]

Well when you are trying to ask a woman out you should definetly do it in person. Not over a facebook, SMS, email or a letter. Why?
Well it is not personal and the woman in question can judge you over your looks alone.
Sure some women will turn you down because of the MPBB, some will not. But if you are a good guy and have a good character then in person you can atleast make it hard for them.

Not to mention that you can watch her reactions, body language and eye contact which can tell you a lot.

Sausage I am in the same position as you are. Since my hair loss started I haven't even tried. You at least tried.
I had horrible luck with women before my hair loss so hair loss just made it worse.
But who knows maybe both of us will get lucky some day. And the only way to do that is try. And you tried...

Well as I have said several times, I had no option but to ask her out on a date via Facebook.

I have had a long term relationship whilst balding but that was in the early stages but still clearly had a receded hairline, since then I had some interest from some girls I knew but nothing really happend as one just wanted sex the other I didn't fancy and since then I have become more reclusive cos my hairs got worse but I am trying to move forward.

[sausage]

By telling her that you like her, puts her:

a) on the spot
and
b) does not separate you from the other guys who call her hot.

At least by getting to know her a bit there is a chance you may grow onto her. Womens feelings are volatile like this.

I already knew her from working with her, but I just hadn't seen her for years.
I am happy with going straight in and just asking to meet up, thats fine, game over now anyway...

One thing that I think is very true though, 'simply telling sum1 u like them can make them like u' I heard this the other day and it reminded me of my school days when a girl fancied me but I did not like her, she was not very good looking but she persisted for months and simply cos of the fact that she liked me, made me feel good about myself and eventually I gave in because of that....

So I can still chat to her now and again on Facebook, be a bit flirty and u never know she might change her mind in a few months. I am not going to bet on it but who knows. If a hairloss cure come out then I would have thought I'd be in with a chance.

[sausage]

Of course it was fail. If you don't ask right away, you will fail for sure.


>asking girl out on Facebook - beta as fukk

That's what you get for being a beta male.


No, if you were attractive she would respond positively to your Facebook message. Stop making a fool out of yourself.


Yes, I know that feel. The best way to counter this is by deleting yourself from Facebook.

Remember, social sites are only worth if you are good looking. You need to grow some hair, improve your looks and then come back as a phoenix from ashes.


She will not tell the truth. Women are liars like that. She will tell that she isn't looking for another person right now, while if you contact her from a male model pic, she will be ready to jump on his **** in a heartbeat (don't believe me, try it). It's all because of your looks bro, something you can't control. Just embrace life of involuntary celibacy.

I already said 1million times that It was my only option to ask her on a date via Facebook! What do you want me to do, find out her address, go round her house knock on her door and ask her out NO! cos she wud be freaked out and call the police.

I already said she didn't reply IMO cos I am bald, simple as that. No1 looks better bald, most men look like twats bald, it sucks big hairy mutha ****ing balls.

You have a girlfriend so u must be mega hot, so why u worrying about your baldness and getting girls?

[jpm]

The vast majority of girls don't care about hair as much as we balding guys do!!

Yes some may not like balding guys but most girls are 10x more insecure about themselves and are probably on forums right now saying 'my boobs are to small' 'I have cellulite' etc etc

[sausage]

You should have not asked her out instead of tainting your reputation and labeling yourself as a Facebook creep that she will show other girls and tell to avoid.

Go out on the street and hit on girls at the bus stop or cafeteria.

I have a girlfriend, but she isn't a 10 and I'm not a 10 either. We are settling for each other, because we can't get better. It is pitiful.

Also - she wouldn't have called the police if you were hot.

You should write comedy....

'Hit on girls at the bus stop' LMFAO, I don't want an old age pensioner.

I would be known as 'The Bald Bus Stop Perve'.

[25 going on 65]

Never contact a long-lost friend/coworker/etc. by telling her you're interested or asking her on a date. The only exception I can think of is if the last time you saw her in person, she was clearly interested in you (even then it's maybe pushing it).
The fact that you're Facebooking her after 2+ years is enough. She'll be wondering if you're interested because of that alone; don't ruin the mystery of it by stating you are.

Instead, be casual about it. Talk about "hanging out and catching up sometime," and you might even suggest meeting up in a group for drinks or something. You don't want her to feel discomfort or pressure, just be a confident guy (fake it) who couldn't care less about whether or not this girl likes you. Because your life is sweet and if one girl doesn't go home with you, the next girl will.

Basically it's about projecting value. If you seem to have a good thing going for you (whether you do or not), women will be drawn to that perceived social status.

This is where men are lucky: women are wired to prioritize other factors above your appearance when looking at potential "mates." That's why ugly guys date pretty women.

But I know this is all easier said than done. Pre-MPB, I didn't give a damn about having any "game," because my appearance was enough to at least get a one-night stand when I went out. Now I feel I have to start growing a decent personality to compensate for my hair loss, which is a real pain in the ass.

On a final note, I disagree with Scorpion that she wouldn't have called the police if you showed up at her house with a full "hot" head of hair. Mass murderers who aren't excessively bald are usually NW1's

[sausage]

Well she was a bit pissed off I didn't tell her I was leaving on my last day lol.

So I saw that as a possible sign she wanted my dick in or around her mouth.

Anyways.....seriously what is the big deal about asking someone out on Facebook that you have no other way of asking out, your saying I should have just let it go and spent the rest of my life thinking 'I should have asked her out'.

I know it sucks asking someone out like that but thats the way it is, my life sucks, my hair sucks so I am not going to worry about contacting sum1 on Facebook, worrying about that compared to worrying about hairloss is a completely different matter.

I am glad its done. I did it cos I was thinking I'd never be able to do it and I'll regret it.

Like the saying goes, 'you only regret what you DIDN'T do, not what you did do' My regrets have gone in one simple message to her. Sorted.

The only regret I have is that I wish I did not suffer from hairloss then I may have had a chance with her.

I will regret having hairloss for the rest of my life.

[25 going on 65]

Well she was a bit pissed off I didn't tell her I was leaving on my last day lol.

So I saw that as a possible sign she wanted my dick in or around her mouth.

Some people might find that offensive but it made me laugh out loud for the first time today


Anyway, I didn't mean to say you shouldn't have contacted her online. I just don't think that was the best time/setting to bring up dating and romantic interest.. the goal of Facebooking her should have been to see her in person, which is more likely to happen if she doesn't feel pressured.
Once you're spending time with someone face-to-face, that's the time to build attraction.
But it's no big deal, she's one of billions of women on this planet. And you're right that it's 10x better to get rejected than to spend a lifetime wondering what could have happened.

I will regret having hairloss for the rest of my life.

Me too. At least until good enough treatments are available.

[BaldinLikeBaldwin]

Scorpion reminds of a young Confucius the way he delivers wisdom across the board..

#ThankYouBasedFucius

[sausage]

Some people might find that offensive but it made me laugh out loud for the first time today

It was from a film called Superbad, its always made me laugh, glad it made u laugh too.

Anyway, I didn't mean to say you shouldn't have contacted her online. I just don't think that was the best time/setting to bring up dating and romantic interest.. the goal of Facebooking her should have been to see her in person, which is more likely to happen if she doesn't feel pressured.
Once you're spending time with someone face-to-face, that's the time to build attraction.
But it's no big deal, she's one of billions of women on this planet. And you're right that it's 10x better to get rejected than to spend a lifetime wondering what could have happened.

Well however I asked her if she wanted to do something/meet up/go for a drink it would be pretty obvious that I have a romantic interest in her. So trying to 'see her in person' is exactly the same as meeting up on a date.

I did not say I fancied her that went without saying, I just asked her how she was and if she wanted to meet up sometime.

She said she was happy being single and asked me how I was and said that if she met up with me she would feel as if she was leading me on.

She does seem to be happy as a single person though, she has recently got out of a relationship, she has just got a new job and she's moving out of her parents house soon so yeah maybe she is enjoying her independence and I picked a bad time...

But no lets be honest its my bald head thats screwed me over here.

[yeahyeahyeah]

If it makes you feel better saussage, I was out last night, and my significantly balding mate was more liked then me by a group of girls.

My mate did get rejected a few times, but he kept on trying. Got there in the end.

[yeahyeahyeah]

It was from a film called Superbad, its always made me laugh, glad it made u laugh too.




Well however I asked her if she wanted to do something/meet up/go for a drink it would be pretty obvious that I have a romantic interest in her. So trying to 'see her in person' is exactly the same as meeting up on a date.

I did not say I fancied her that went without saying, I just asked her how she was and if she wanted to meet up sometime.

She said she was happy being single and asked me how I was and said that if she met up with me she would feel as if she was leading me on.

She does seem to be happy as a single person though, she has recently got out of a relationship, she has just got a new job and she's moving out of her parents house soon so yeah maybe she is enjoying her independence and I picked a bad time...

But no lets be honest its my bald head thats screwed me over here.

Yeah but asking her COLD is not sexy, it puts the girl on the spot, and she has to make a decision based on that. Rather if you go out, have FUN, and then make a move your chances of getting somewhere will be much higher.

That is what you are failing to see.

You may as well send her a message and say, I like you lets have sex.