Originally Posted by dda
I'm sorry but thats a bunch of crap man. I could never see myself caring too much about hairloss if I was married with kids. I mean sure, I'd wake up in the morning, look in the mirror and still be pissed, but I'd be so involved with the family and kids that it would be on the backburner.
It doesn't work that way, it only seems that way sometimes when you're young.
You are evolutionarily hardwired to care how other women perceive you whether you have kids or a wife, whether you are 25 or 65. More potential mates means more potential to diversify the DNA of your offspring, which means a stronger chance of your line continuing longer.
This is why starting to lose hair is horrible at 55 just as it is at 20. However for those who start losing at 20 and live to 55, it can get easier since you've had so much time to get used to it. (Although some people never reach that stage.)
There are some especially bad aspects of starting to lose it young ,since as you say most of your peers aren't in the same boat and can't empathize. But overall it's actually not that different. When your body suddenly starts disfiguring itself due to a genetic mutation you can't control, it is highly depressing. In general, the idea that you will "break the spell" by having a marriage ceremony or popping some kids out is not correct, even though these things can provide some convenient distractions.
Another thing to consider however: most marriages are temporary, and most that aren't, do not stay monogamous (either because of cheating or mutually agreed "opening" of the marriage)